"when someone calls their boyfriend their husband it really makes me ill"
it makes me so mad to see the girls write in their statuses or put on their page they're married or "waiting for their hubby to get home". are you officially married? do you have the legal papers? do you have the rings? did you have the wedding? until you do then that's NOT your husband. i put up with a lot, we both do, i waited a long time and have the legalities to be able to say he's my husband. now you say "well it's just a piece of paper" ok if that's all it is then what are you waiting for? if it's just a piece of paper then there shouldn't be any reason why you're not married. then my friend made a good point. by saying "it's just a piece of paper" cheapens the relationship. it lowers it's value. my marriage isn't just a piece of paper. it's a lot more than that although that tiny piece of paper means a lot to a lot of important factors in our life. when it comes to insurance, taxes, death benefits [although no one wants to think of that] children, bills, incomes and the list goes on & on then that piece of paper makes a world of difference. although just because i take off my wedding ring to take a shower doesn't mean i'm not married anymore it is a symbol of our commitment to one another valid and backed up by that "piece of paper".
our marriage is something we have to work at every single day. it's a struggle. it's not always easy but it's very rewarding. to know that i have a best friend when the rest of the world walks out. to have someone to share every single special moment with me and someone to grow old with that's what makes it special. ok so you say you can have that without this paper. well here's some things you need to think about. with that paper when you have a fight you can't just pack up, walk out and say that's it we're breaking up. it's not that simple. people say "aww divorce is so cheap these days" no really it's not. upon getting the legal separation papers, living in separate homes, dividing up the finances, property, bills, taking back your old name if you wish there's also something else people forget about, the kids [if there are any]. how will this affect you & your children? is it better to stay in a loveless marriage constantly fighting infront of the children or live separatly but harmoniously? that isn't cheap. it's actually more costly than the lawyers and court time.
now if you're just in a relationship you can leave without any of that hassle and only go to court for child support and custody. not saying that's easy because i've been there too but for some it's easier when they can just walk away. there's not near the legal issues with non married parents or couples. but another reason these girls state it's just a piece of paper is because they know they will never get married, he will never marry them so to them that's what comforts them. you say that you're married in your hearts so you don't need to get legally married to be considered married. well sorry but that's just not how it works. you like to pretend you're married because you know that it will never happen. to be acknowledged by society as married then you need to have "that piece of paper" and until you do then stop calling your boyfriend your husband. that's only reserved for the ones who have put in their time, their love, their eternal dedication to each other, their children and their lives and the courts.
where is the like button?!
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