it's getting closer to time for Miss to arrive and i feel it's necessary to cover "the rules" once again, seeing as everything goes 'normal' this time...
i do NOT want anyone visiting the first day while we are in the hospital, NO EXCEPTIONS! this is our last baby and Matt was pretty much robbed of his moment with his son last time. even with the car birth, after that it seemed like my room was constantly filled with people. nurses, doctors & visitors. my room does NOT have a revolving door!!! i want to have time for just us. let us enjoy this moment. i think we deserve that.
Matt, this one is partially for you... that cell phone is to have a voicemail greeting that we are in the hospital having a baby and they are not to disturb you until they see you back on the route and working. after that it will be cut off! my phone will only be on and used for pictures. so don't call our cell phones blowing them up. we'll let you know details when we feel like it. referring back to the previous, we'd like our time first.
once we come home, don't flock to my house. yet again, there is no revolving door!!! i don't need "help" especially if your "help" consists of coming over and sitting to just hold the baby. that's not help, that's annoying to me. this is taken from my 'dear non- pregnant person' post...
If you are asked to help after the birth, this means you should clean up the house, help with cooking meals, and generally stay out of the way. Holding the baby more than the parents, interfering with breastfeeding and sleeping schedules and making a woman who is still leaking fluid from multiple locations lift a finger in housework is not helping.
i agree 100%! i don't want all these people constantly coming in & out. i will have 3 kids, i will need sleep and Matt does not get to take any time off to be with us. so yet again when we come home we want our quiet time, meaning alone, just the 5 of us. you can visit when we're ready for visitors and we'll let you know when that is. don't call me asking to come over. if i need or want your help once of us will let you know. again taken from the 'non-pregnant person' post...
The only people entitled to time with the baby are the parents. Whether they choose to have you at the hospital for the birth or ask for you to wait three weeks to visit, appreciate that you are being given the privilege of seeing their child. Complaining or showing disappointment only encourages the parents to include you less.
& boy is this SO true!! bc last time i checked, this was our baby, our LAST baby and both previous times before i had a 3 ring circus on my 'rooms' for the boys. i don't want that again!! it's annoying. and whining and complaining bc you don't get to see the baby seriously will do nothing but keep you away even more. like i said NO EXCEPTIONS! you are not entitled to this baby in any way shape or form. there are only 2 people with entitlements to this child, just like our other 2, so that pretty much excludes everyone except me & Matt. don't whine bc we said we don't want you at the hospital the first day or say "you mean I can't even come down there?" yes, that means you too!
i think all the bases are covered & it's sad that i have to lay down a set of rules but Matt & i both feel the same way. so far things are 'normal' which is totally unusual so we'd like to have a 'normal' birth if at all possible this time too. i mean hello, let's think about it for a minute... branson was early and my room was a 3 ring circus! matt (we were dating at the time), branson's real dad, momma, grandma, my brother, the photographer, my nurse, the baby nurse and the dr were all in my room. it was crazy! and all just bc i was a single mom at the time everyone thought they needed to be there for me. jaxon, do we need a recap of that? Matt wasn't there and not even a hospital room that time. we both feel we're owed a normal, happy, quiet, stress free, just the 2 of us birth. and i don't care if it makes you mad. it's not about you and what you want.
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