WHY do people insist on saying "boys will be boys"? i'm sorry but my boys aren't your typical boys. they behave, they listen, they are respectful and have manners, they hate to be dirty, they don't argue and fight. they share when other kids are rude and take toys from them. they don't turn everything into a "gun" and go pow pow at anyone that waslk past them. so someone PLEASE explain to me just because i have boys people insist on using this gawd awful statement of "boys will be boys". i HATE that statement with a passion!!! just because you know boys or have boys that are rough, don't listen and wrestle why must people insist on classifying ALL boys into that category?! there are some things that just piss me off to no end and this is one of them.
when i'm out with my boys people love to make rude comments about me having 2 boys. "aw you have you hands full with 2 boys, just wait until they're older they will be hard to handle & control, goodness... 2 boys [like it's such a terrible thing]" i'm sorry just because i have 2 children that happen to have a penis automatically makes them trouble makers?! i think not. it's called parenting. people who use the statement "boys will be boys" are just looking for an excuse to allow their boys to misbehave and not have to parent. i started teaching from 6 months discipline. you ask how he's just a baby and doesn't understand. well for starters i don't baby talk my kids. i talk to them like little adults, not idiots. they understand a lot more than you give them credit for.
when branson was 6 months old and laying on his changing table he liked to reach behind him and grab the blinds and pull on them. i would remove his hand the first time while telling him no. the next time he did it i would pop his hand & tell him no and he stopped. it took 2 times of "popping" his hand, telling him no and he didn't do it anymore. if he started to reach i would tell him firmly 'no' and he didn't. he learned the meaning of the word 'no' and associated it with something we didn't want him doing. i've never baby proofed my house and never have any intentions of doing so. they have to learn what they can and can not touch.
call it a broken record but until i get it across to people and beat into their heads that not ALL boys are mean as snakes, want to be dirty, don't listen and are nothing but trouble and like to tell me that "boys will be boys" then i'm going to keep harping on this. i have boys, they've what i've been given. i wasn't given a girl that everyone likes to fawn over and buy every cute little thing in pink they see. i have cars all over my house. everything is blue and i'm surrounded by testosterone. and until people can keep their rude comments about me having boys to themselves then i'm going to start getting rude back. i have 2 of the sweetest, most well behaved boys you will ever meet. some may say "well of course you'd say that you're their mom" no just ask anyone how well behaved they are. branson will see a child in a store or restaurant acting up and tell them it's not nice and looks and me knowing that he's not allowed to act like that. i will take my 2 well behaved and well mannered boys ANY day over the prettiest, yet brattiest little girl.
Love it. Seriously love it. It should be brats will be brats.
ReplyDeleteI think I'm gonna disagree with ya ma'am! Not about the part where you said that parents use that excuse for bratty children cause I completely agree with that. That being said, I have a boys boy. The kind of boy that everything is a gun, he jumps off of things just to do it, thinks farting and pooping are funny, brings sticks rocks and bugs in my house and acts like a ninja and a karate man. BUT you better believe that that boy says please, thank you, excuse me, yes ma'am and yes sir EVERY. TIME. He knows better than to back talk his mama and if he points his "guns" at people he is gonna be in big trouble. He does SO many things that are just 'boy'. Not necessarily bad, just boy. So while I agree with you on one area, I do also think that boys just do things that girls don't.... obviously not EVERY boy, but the majority. They like to be rowdy and get dirty but in no way should that be an excuse for rude, bratty, disrespectful kids cause that is something this mama CANNOT STAND. I honestly felt the same way as you until I had Ethan. I've got to pick my battles so to speak. Go get dirty, I don't care but you BETTER not be disrespectful or violent EVER.
ReplyDeleteNeedless to say I enjoyed reading your point of view! It is awesome that you are confident and proud about the way that you raise your children. Keep up the good work mama!
agreed times a trillion! Branson is such a little gentleman! When I got the opportunity to keep him while you were in the hospital with Jax, he was so respectful! All I had to say was "Branson No." and he stopped what he was doing wrong. When I said "time to get out of the pool," he did so without crying or causing a scene!
ReplyDeleteIt's not that Branson isnt a typical boy, he will be the first to go and play outside or in the snow, he just knows that he better come in when he is told!
I would keep those 2 kids anytime! :)